This is a little late for you, but it may help you next year with this problem. When I took over coaching my two softball teams, I made it Very clear with a discussion with my players and a note home to the parents.... skipped practices or games without an excuse will result in being benched the next game. Basically I will accept most excuses - as long as the player lets me know. In the case of an emergency or illness...they must let me know why they weren't there by the next practice. Forgetting a practice is Not an acceptable excuse. The girls all have schedules, calendars, and clocks. My first year, I had to make the dreaded phone call to three parents - two of them immediately said... oh no, it's not the childs fault - it's my fault...I forgot they had practice. At which point you need to take a deep breath...count to ten....and calmly explain that No, the player is responsible for remembering practice. This year I had to make one phone call - and the parent was totally supportive and even took off work early to drive the girl to the out of town game - knowing that she was going to be benched...but also knowing that having to sit there and watch her team would ensure that this player never forgot practice again. I have had many parents of the girls who do practice hard and attend every practice and game possible say to me....Thank you for doing this! As a parent, it was very hard for me to explain to my daughters - who went to every practice - why the kids that skipped practice to go to the pool were getting to play an equal amount of time as those who were sweating it out on the field. Good Luck.... hope this helps you in the future!