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  1. Wanted to add one other opinion I don't see expressed with this issue - which by the way, can be common and very disruptive to any organization. Handling issues with 'crazy' parents begins with the League leadership. There has to be a clear, simple set of rules established which essentially say - one disruption, suspension for 2 games and removal from the field by law enforcement personnel. 2nd disruption, one full year's suspension plus the remaining games of the offending year. Period. The League obtains a restraining order on the offender. Make sure to spell out what defines 'disruption'. Don't punish the kid. Unfortunately, if his parents act this irresponsible in public, imagine the ###### the poor kid is getting at home. You can't have your other parents intimidated or kids watching these problems without addressing them with tough love. Failure to have this 'no tolerence policy' only fuels worse situations year to year. We used to be in a League where I personally witnessed one mom pulling a pistol on a head coach, one where shots were fired in the stands, one where a dad jumped a fence and punched out a ref, and one where a player pulled a knife on one of his ass't coaches. We started the next year with a clear set of rules and punishments defined and the incidents went to almost nothing. Sure, we had some dads (and moms) who broke the rules and they were dealt with in a definitive and immediate manner - mainly suspension and being escorted from the field by local law enforcement. I haven't seen any serious incidents in 3 yrs now, making for a much more secure and enjoyable experience for all parents and players.
  2. If you're being physical with your players - you shouldn't be in a position of authority and responsibility with kids. You're not coaching when you're being physical or rough physically with a kid, you're just your old HS coach who apparently was ignorant about how to coach - so frustration creeps in and you resort to what you know best - force through intimidation. That's not coaching, my friend. That's just physical abuse - period. Sounds like you need to take some time off, get your ego in check and rethink what is your real purpose as a coach. That doesn't make anyone physically tougher, they just begin hating you. And I'll match my credentials and season records with you anytime to show that's not the way to handle kiddos. All I can say is you grab or treat one of my kids or players in that manner and you'd have a much bigger issue to contend with - mainly this 6'4", 265 guy. Grow up and be an adult and teacher instead of some redneck - these are the types of items which drives kids OUT of sports. Way to go, dad. I appreciate your reply, but maybe you did not read my comment clearly. I did not say there was talking in the huddle. I said he was communicating with the QB on the way back to the huddle. If I may quote from the fourth edition of coaching youth football by the american sports education program-it reads, keep in mind that as a coach you need to be a teacher first and any action that detracts from the message you are trying to convey to your players should be avoided. Calm and controlled actions and voice allow players to focus on your message rather than what your personal feelings may be. From the football coaching bible put out by the american football coaches association-Use of proper language and the ability to present your ideas has great bearing on advancement in professional life. A leader must be a communicator, and language is an important tool that we use to convey thoughts, ideas, and passion. Someone is looking up to each of us right now, emulating what we do and what we say. In other words, being a role model means that we are influencing those who look up to us with our work and actions. These are the words and thoughts of Grant Teaff (Baylor University's head football coach for 22 years). Joe Paterno states a coach is first a teacher. As a coach, you have a strong impact on the lives of the young people you deal with, second only to the influence of their families and perhaps their churches. Never lose sight of the fact that you are dealing with young people. You are a teacher, and not only do you teach techniques, you teach principles that will help players throughout their lives: discipline, camaraderie, loyalty, trust, and the other intangibles we talk about all the time. Remember that you are dealing with young, mostly teenage, men who don't really know who they are and aren't sure where they're headed. Sometimes we tell young kids, be a man, but when they look around the inner city, the "man" is the guy with the fancy car who is peddling drugs. So we can't just say things. We need to lead by example. We have to make players understand that if they work hard and do things the right way, they will be better people and will have a better chance of being happy and having successful lives. These are the principles that I choose to coach by. Therefore if you choose to coach by degradation, you are teaching your players to teach others to learn this way. The root of my original comment was that my son was grabbed in an aggressive manner by the front of his jersey and moved from one place to another. If you condone this action, you are no better than he. This is not a positive way to send a message to a child or anyone else. You are teaching this child to handle matters in a physical way. As I mentioned before, I've coached for four years in three different sports and I have never degraded nor physically touched a player in a demeaning manner. That is what builds discipline and respect and opens the avenue of communication in your players. In closing, I constantly reevaluate myself as a coach and as a human being and I believe that through this process I become a better individual altogether. Coach C Ok if you are a coach how would you feel if kids are talking going back to the huddle instead of hustling back how they are suppose to. When you are waiting to set up the next play. There are no super stars on my team just stars. If one run to the huddle all run to the huddle. I understand that I might have offended you. Sometimes it will happen. Did the coach grab and slam your child to the ground? no. How was anything I said degrading? none. It's good that you have read books but HAVE YOU EVER BEEN IN THE WARROOM OR HALFTIME WITH ANY OF THE COACHES YOU MENTIONED? no. I think if your child was being beaten or harassed you would have called authorities instead of making a post. I'm very sorry that I didn't see the matter in the same way that you did. Also funny that you mentioned about being a teacher because I am one in Math. Also funny you mentioned about building kids up. I teach in Compton Ca. A place where most youth are forgotten but not by me. I coached a youth team in Compton from 9-10 thru 12-13 year olds of 25 players. None were involved in gangs, most attend Church, and all maintain good grades in which I tutor them. When they were entering Dominguez High School, they asked the A.D. if I could coach them. He said, "Yes". If you watch high school football you will here about them hopefully all positive. This is a tough world nothing comes easy I have lived it and teach it. I accept what you have said but I disagree maybe you are a millionaire and can give your child everything he wants but in my community must earn everything and I'm going to give Them LOVING DISCIPLINE just as God did for us 40 years and it wasn't called genocide. For evaluating myself, yes I do. On my current youth team there was unethical things going on in which we have a great football team but because of the issues going on I left and will not be coming back. I think you are trying to judge me instead of reading the football coaching Bible read the Holy Bible. It is about the kids and I have never forgotten and never will. Maybe the problem was I didn't put my quote up. MAY GOD KEEP BLESSING US ALL Thanks at least someone agrees LOL M G K B U A L. T. LACY
  3. Hi Dad, You've just experienced the Pop Warner effect - you've got a big kid and he's being treated as a 'freak of nature' by your peers. You'll find fighting city hall a waste of time - instead you'll need to do what others of us have done, start your own 'renegade league' with no weight limits. There may already be one in your area that you're not aware of existing... We went through the same frustrations in Austin, TX. Finally, I recruited a group of dads, we pooled our money and started our own team - The Hill Country Cowboys (www.hillcountrycowboys.org). We talked two other larger Pop Warner teams into joining us- that was six years ago. Today, our Central Texas league is the envy of the community, with eight other leagues involved and around 1400 kids from ages 5-12. The proof is in the pudding - our kids typically always win starting positions on their respective junior high teams when they become eligible and we've only had one serious injury (leg broken) in those 6 years. It can happen - just have to get committed. If interested, shoot me an email and I'll be happy to discuss any topic relating to it with you. Austcoach
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