Coach Vs. Coach
Posted 17 March 2005 - 11:04 PM
Here's the sit. I am a new teacher at a very small school and was asked to be the head coach and part of their enticing package was that I would have an assistant coach.
Turns out my assistant coach is fresh out of high school, asked to be head coach but was told no because of his age. I played softball for 10 years he's played baseball for one. My philosophy is work hard but have fun his is win. From day one I approached the situation as if we were equals I would ask his opinion on planning and we would be in agreement prior to practice but then when it got down to it he would completely do something different. Several times I let it slide but its getting to the point where I say one thing and hes says another and the girls are getting confused. The two times I have called him on it he gets out team leader and bad mouths me.
Any suggestions would be helpful. I am going to talk to my AD tomorrow and I plan on talking to him but every time we have talked he just goes along with what I am saying and then does something totally different.
Posted 18 March 2005 - 12:15 AM
If I were you I think I would sit down and talk to your assistant and redefine the team goals. Maybe make a poster of them that way everyone the team included knows what they are. The team needs to know that you are the head coach and they come to you with questions.
Good luck talking to the AD...I have not found the ones I dealt with to go much beyond you are the head coach you will figure it out.
I wish you the best in this situation.
Posted 18 March 2005 - 10:40 PM
Keep in mind that young "boys" right out of HS still have something to prove. Recent studies have shown that the male brain (apologies to all you guys, but the studies have been ONLY done on teenage boys) has not fully formed until at least the age of 18. Some say 25. It's physiological, the synaps's have not connected yet! Young men are still in the high rev testosterone haze and truly NEED to roar! Unfortunately for you it seems that you have s roar'er. Any kind of logic is still going to be met with a bit of teenage defiance. My son had a "right out of HS" little league coach (an all american all star) who could not relate to 12 YO boys, great kid but I could see where he was still so very immature.
You might want to double up your presence and not give him too much slack or alone time with your team. Delegate him to soft toss or teaching basic drills like getting the ball out of the glove, turn, step and throw.
And take heart, what you're doing will far surpass pettiness Just stick with coaching fundamentals and realize that if you have taught all the basics, and you lose now, the rewards will be reaped much later when your team members instinctivly do what needs to be done in a crunch situation. A bad coach's name will be remembered forever.....a good coach's teachings will live forever.
Posted 17 March 2006 - 12:36 PM
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